‘She Killed Me, So I Killed Her': Man Allegedly Stabs Girlfriend to Death after She Tells Him She’s HIV Positive

Cicely Bolden's children discovered their mother's body after she was allegedly killed by a boyfriend, angered after she told him she had the virus.

  • Share
  • Read Later
Siede Preis / Getty Images

A Dallas man who has been charged with stabbing death of his mistress confessed to police that he killed her after she revealed to him that she was HIV positive.

Larry Dunn, Jr., 36, told police during an interview that after a sexual encounter with Cicely Bolden, 28, in her apartment, she told him of her status and in a rage he went to her kitchen, grabbed a knife and stabbed her to death. “She killed me, so I killed her,” he told detectives.

(MORE: HIV Patients Should Start Drug Treatment Right Away, New Guidelines Say)

The Dallas Morning News reported Bolden’s body was found by her children, aged 7 and 8, Thursday afternoon after they returned home from school, then frantically told their neighbor Latoya Arnett what happened. “The kids came home around 3:30 p.m. Thursday, and when they walked inside the house, they came out crying,” said Arnett. “I ran out to see what was wrong with them. They were saying, ‘Something’s wrong with mama!’ “

Arnett had reportedly seen Dunn entering Bolden’s apartment on Thursday, but he was not familiar to her. The two had only recently began dating and relatives pointed authorities in Dunn’s direction. They said there may have been an argument between them about her HIV status. According to police records, after their sexual encounter, Bolden began to talk to him about her having the virus “and telling him it is not that bad.”

Upset and feeling he should have been told before they had sex, Dunn retrieved the knife and began to stab her as she lay on her bed. After the stabbing, he burned the clothes he was wearing and threw the knife in a dumpster behind an Irving, Tex., diner, which is where he later led police to find the weapon.

(MORE: Ex-College Lacrosse Player Sentenced to 23 Years in Girlfriends Murder)

Jeff Busby, the father of Bolden’s 7-year-old son, told Dallas station WFAA-TV that she contracted HIV within the recent few years. Currently, he is taking care of both the boy and the girl. “It’s hard having to answer the kids’ questions. I don’t know what to say,” he told the Morning News. “I don’t know why anybody would do something like that.”

Dunn was charged with murder and is being held on $500,000 bond in police custody.

33 comments
tmr3513
tmr3513

The odds of this guy contracting HIV from hetero sex is slim to none.

JuliaFarrington
JuliaFarrington

Wait a second though...to you saying "WOW. SHE DIDNT TELL HIM UNTIL AFTER UNPROTECTED SEX!?"...she didn't force him to have sex with her. He had unprotected sex with her without knowing if she had any diseases. It takes two people to have unprotected sex. If he was that concerned about HIV, he should have used a condom. Or asked her beforehand. Yeah, if she knew, she should have told him, but he also could have asked or taken preventative measures.

Kshunka
Kshunka

The saddest part of this story is that the kids came home from school to see their mother dead and covered in blood. Regardless of the circumstances, kids should not have to come home from a day of school to experience something like this. This man had no right to put the kids through that. 

Harvey Lester
Harvey Lester

SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE TOLD HIM AFTER THE FACT    THAT THEY HAD SEX ALREADY!  ITS THE SAME AS HER WAITNG UNTIL SHE POSSIBLY GIVE IT TO HIM, BEFORE TELLING HIM!   MOST PEOPLE WOULD OF FLIPPED AN MOST LIKELEY HAVE DONE THE SAME!  SO  IM NOT EVEN SURPRISED CUS ITS A LOT OF PEOPLE WITH THAT VIRUS THAT WANT TO INFECT ANY AND EVERYBODY THEY CAN, ITS REALLY SAD!

msr737
msr737

She must have contracted the disease through her promiscuity, afterwards, she wanted to sptead it to the rest of the populace. Wow! What kind of a human being is that?

Yo Hinck
Yo Hinck

Put yourself in his situation. The emotional roller coaster he was on right after they had sex, then she decides to tell him that in actuality I just gave you a death sentence. Your right though, instead of stabbing her he should of just thrown her butt out the window head first.

Jack Helin
Jack Helin

 I'm not sure if this guy was married (she's described as his mistress), but if so he got what he deserved. The woman should have told him, but she didn't definitively give him the virus and she didn't deserve to die. More than anything, I feel bad for the kids in this situation.

IndigoKnight00
IndigoKnight00

Relationships are based on trust. Maybe she was afraid of rejection still she should have said something . I can't believe the man stabbed her like that though what a terrible betrayel of love and trust. I am glad he is caught .

LaShona Hines
LaShona Hines

hey mr. married man! had u had your nasty ass at home with you wife ths wouldnt have happened. hey mr nasty ass had you put on a condom with your mistress you wouldnt have happened your placing all the blame on her man up and take responsibility for YOUR RECKLESS ACTIONS!!!!

MissSara13
MissSara13

I believe that telling a sex partner your HIV status before having sex is the way to go. Her murder was tragic, in that, the transmission of HIV from women to men is rare via vaginal sex. Women are 8 times more at risk to contract HIV from a man. The murderer put himself at a higher risk by stabbing her and coming into contact with her blood. And to have her children find her in that state? I hope that her murderer is prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

Read about HIV transmission here:http://www.thebody.com/content...

Donnie Reilly
Donnie Reilly

Surely stabbing her multiple times put him at much greater risk of contracting the virus than doing nothing at that stage? It's not right not to tell a person about your HIV status, but IMO attacking that person with bladed weapons might be the dumbest response ever.

tednarcotic
tednarcotic

You don't automatically pass the virus by having sex. A blood transfusion might be a 100 percent method , but sex is probably roulette. Either way, murder is an inappropriate response, obviously.

Augustine
Augustine

Well, she practically murdered him. 

The law does not treat that situation well...

 

Sickofit74
Sickofit74

Go and look it up.  There is a treatment out that will kill HIV within a 72 hours window.   

NaveedXVO
NaveedXVO

And the guys wife who could now have the virus.

msr737
msr737

@tednarcotic, and where did you learn that?!? Do you even know why HIV positive individuals are advised to use protection whenever they feel the need to do the deed?

RockyMissouri
RockyMissouri

You don't get it by having unprotected sex....????

Sickofit74
Sickofit74

No, she didn't.  Not every time a person that has AIDS passes it to someone else, during sex.   you can go and get treatment within a 72 hour window, the 30 day treatment will destroy HIV.   Lord people, know your facts!

NaveedXVO
NaveedXVO

Not really he will and would have lived for a very long time. AIDs can be controlled indefinitely. Since the story says she was his mistress, his wife probably wouldn't have been too happy. It's too bad the children had to have such a terrible mother though.

DocTony
DocTony

 Certainly not "automatically," as tednarcotic said. It depends largely on the "type" of sex, and the exchange of fluids. HIV must enter the bloodstream to infect someone, and not all sexual encounters make this possible. In addition, the levels of the virus in the relevant fluids (blood, semen--not relevant here, vaginal fluid). People with low levels of virus are less likely to transmit the virus. Finally, the story doesn't indicate whether the sex was "protected" or "unprotected." Even with a condom, it wouldn't surprise me to hear that someone (who is ignorant about the virus) overreacted. We simply don't know in this case.

Yes, there is no question in my mind that people with HIV have an ethical obligation to tell their partners about their status. On the other hand, people who don't have HIV have an ethical obligation to learn the facts (well, and not stab people). Why do I have a feeling that this guy will live a long, HIV free life? Hopefully it will be behind bars.

Matthew Johnson
Matthew Johnson

Ah, but you see, this is the problem with the way information about the disease has been publicized. Most info never gives hard numbers about probabilities, they just try to scare people into behaving safely by making unprotected sex sound like a certain death sentence. So he thought that he was doomed once he heard she was HIV positive. He probably doesn't know either that the meds for HIV are much more effective now than before. Even if he does come down with AIDS, his odds of living to a ripe old age as long as he gets the meds is pretty good.

Even so, it was criminally stupid of the woman to expose him and then tell him only after the fact.

M.
M.

Incorrect. The treatment is highly successful in helping exposed people, but it is not a guarantee. You are correct of course in that sex with an HIV positive person will not automatically result in infection. It is also more difficult to transmit female to male. Of course, that doesn't negate the need for using protection every time. 

Yo Hinck
Yo Hinck

Have you seen those pills they take to deal with the HIV virus? They are like horse pills and you have to take a lot of them all the time. Never mind the ups and downs you go through with the illness. Your social life is in the toilet and possibly your career as well ( depends on what you do for a living!).

What she did is so unbelievably wrong and twisted, it makes you feel sorry for him. 

Dani6121
Dani6121

she wasnt concerned about her kids when she was passing hiv..she wasnt concerned about HIS children..she wasn't concerned about the no telling how many other guys she has slept with in the two+ years that she had the virus... Im not saying what he did was right.. but to tell someone that AFTER sex then say ITS NOT THAT BAD.. come on.. she had multiple opportunities to tell him.. its like she waited until they had sex enough times to have passed it to him.. smh!

Tony Jack
Tony Jack

So do many murderers. Having kids do not make anyone a good person or parent. I seriously doubt she could be a good mother when she don't even feel guilty or care about the life of another human being and willingly have unprotected sex when she knows she have the virus.

Tony Jack
Tony Jack

Let's be realistic, NOBODY wants the virus and have to take the medication for the rest of their lives. A lot of people would flipout if this happened to them, though I am not certain if it will drive them to kill. Also the medication may not be effective for all people, just as no present medication for any type of disease is effective for all people.

The virus constantly mutates, and that is why there is no cure. I don't see how this woman could have sex with someone unprotected when she known she had the virus. I feel sorry for the guy if the story is true.

RockyMissouri
RockyMissouri

Thank you for you reply..... I feel sympathy for the guy....! She should never have had unprotected sex, but then... neither should he... It's a terrible illness ...too many people have died... I'm so grateful that the meds have improved...

MargaretCabral
MargaretCabral

@Yo Hinck  he figured he be taken care of in Prison, cover medications and a place to live after his anger of killing her for murdering him. his life was put in the toliet even if he had not killed her being homeless and unemployed.    Thats where many HIV people are, homeless or in the shelters.    poor guy

M.
M.

This is a common misconception. There are still people who die within two years of contracting HIV, in the US, with full access to medication. It's not an 'easy' disease, nor is it easily managed for most. 

Kay Tilee
Kay Tilee

You only have his version of events-his self righteousness is telling- The 1st thing that came to my mind is a similar story happened between 2 men in the 90's but the HIV + one was only beating into a coma -the attacker told the same story amp; when the victim recovered the real truth came out-what the prep failed to admit is that he was well aware of his status amp; even paid for his meds. A Crack binge led to sex --So this is not alright or excusable at all because no one will know the whole truth. Also Do you have any idea how many people give their spouses STDs  w/o knowing it-he put his family at risk-he is responsible-(If he is telling the whole story) for his own actions no less than she was.