Utah Dad Puts on Short Shorts to Teach Daughter a Lesson

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A Utah dad intending to teach his daughter a lesson about appropriate apparel has sent his educational message far beyond.

A photograph posted on the family’s blog of him sporting a pair of very short shorts in public last month went viral, drawing thousands of views, news coverage, and comments like, “You are the best Dad ever!”

“In our family we have pretty definite modesty guidelines,” Scott Mackintosh wrote on the blog in an explanation after the photograph went viral. “I’m a firm believer that the way we dress sends messages about us, and it influences the way we and others act.”

[NY Daily News]

28 comments
MichelleAnnResman
MichelleAnnResman

The issue at hand here is not that he is trying to control what she wears, but of how he handled the situation. Parents can set their own rules about these things to a certain extent, and these parents value modesty, so all the power to them for wanting to teach their kids what they value.  However, publicly shaming his daughter by posting a picture of himself in shorts (he would have looked just as ridiculous in a turtleneck and a long denim skirt, or one of those modest Mormon prom dresses with sleeves) is in no way going to teach her why modesty is important to their family and why he might have not liked her wearing those.  Instead she will probably be more distant from her father and will not process the message of why modesty is important to her family. He went about teaching his daughter about modesty in the most immodest attention grabbing way, instead of talking to her about it, seeing where is she is coming from (seriously it's hot out, and it can be hard to find "modest" shorts), and how he could have helped.  The way he handled it was probably because he didn't know how to, so he just did something flat out stupid.  He could have taken her shopping, see what she has to pick and choose from and get her a pair that they both agree on , and then get rid of the old ones.  Not only will he be happy that his daughter isn't wearing something that he disliked, he could also build and strengthen his relationship with his daughter by spending time with her ins.  Teaching kids lessons in the way he did really does not teach them anything in the long run.  She wont be thinking "I don't want to wear these because modesty is important," it will be around the lines of "I should never wear these again because my Dad might embarrass me again".  

SusanPau
SusanPau

Great set of legs there, Sir!  lol  

WilliamBarnes
WilliamBarnes

Am I from another planet or is this all a lot of BS?

stephaniestonelake
stephaniestonelake

How about instead of teaching girls to cover themselves so men don't treat them like "hoes", based solely on a woman's choice of clothing. We teach men to be respectful of women's bodies regardless of what they dress.  My sexual activity, education level, and level of worth is not defined by what I wear.  This man should be ashamed of himself to believe that he is the best dad ever by asking his daughter to be ashamed of the beautiful body she was given.

RaphaelEuppah
RaphaelEuppah

Am waiting for MOM to teach her SON how to dress well.. lol

robin.fitton
robin.fitton

As a parent of a teenage daughter and son I am hoping that his daughter keeps dressing how she wants and feels free to make choices for herself. I think he pulls those shorts off pretty well, I wonder if he shaved his legs for the event?  


Fred-Crinson
Fred-Crinson

I think what this man did is brilliant! Women complain about being objectified, and wanted only for their looks and in the same breath they walk about in clothing that makes them look like a cheap curb-walker. Double standards much?

AnnaBell
AnnaBell

This guy is great. Now this father is more concerned about his daughter than anything else. I hope it taught her a lesson. More dads like this and we may just stop these girls from dressing like this. It's an awful message letting them dress like they do.


JoseMartinez
JoseMartinez

our kids, like us,listen only when they want to. good move dad, but your buns are out of fashion.

asfffffffdgagagagagas
asfffffffdgagagagagas

How the hell can you consider short shorts a big step forward for humanity? Godamn social justice warriors.

PaigeBullock
PaigeBullock

Why is everyone ignoring the fact that his daughter is in college, and therefore an adult, AKA. it's not her father's business what she wears. At what point will the over-parenting and codling stop so humanity can all just take a big step forward? 

kudoheartwell
kudoheartwell

Nice!!  An involved father who cares about his daughter and her future.  I wish more parents would take the time to teach their children what is appropriate and what is not.  We need to teach them how to choose friends that are good for them, too.   I've worked with teenage girls for several years as a counselor and I would say that there is a BIG difference in the way some girls dress.   And it can have a major impact on their future lives.  How you dress also determines the kind of people who flock to your social circle.  Yay, dad!  Love sometimes has to take a hard path.  And I see love and concern in the way this father is handling this situation.  It's just too bad that more parents don't get involved and stay involved in their childrens lives.  There would be a lot less dysfunction in the family unit.

missing_chapter
missing_chapter

So people are praising a dad for trying to humiliate his daughter for wearing clothing that she likes and is okay with? Yup. That's great parenting.

You can disagree with your kids' clothing choices, but that doesn't give anyone an excuse to do something like this. It's hardly going to make them want to listen to you about anything else, ever.

Also, I seriously doubt that he would have done anything similar if his son had been wearing something 'inappropriate'. The idea of modesty just needs to go away.

glennra3
glennra3

@stephaniestonelake 

Do you even believe what you write?


Are you telling me women don't make judgments about each other based upon clothing, make-up, hair, shoes, and other fashion choices?


Really? Are you really ready to make that generalization? Because it has been my experience, as someone who has spent a career in a primarily female workplace, that it is women who make the harshest judgments about women and their clothing.



donwest
donwest

@stephaniestonelake How about you stop over-generalizing men? "we teach men (like pet monkeys) to respect a woman's blah blah blah pseudo-righteous high ground, blah blah..." Don't we already have women's rights here in this country? Why do you insist on "training" men, like ALL men treat women like "hoes". Are you suggesting a government funded school-video or something? Put a sock in it, feminazi.

logicate
logicate

@stephaniestonelake Your sexual activity, education level, and level of worth aren't defined by what you wear.  They're broadcast by what you wear.  

glennra3
glennra3

@robin.fitton 

As a parent and a high school teacher who has seen far too many 16 year old butt cheeks I hope that parents like you will teach their daughters that when they dress like prostitutes, the world will treat them like prostitutes.



swansong68
swansong68

@PaigeBullock I see helicopter parents all the time trying to save their children from themselves. At some point a good parent will let their adult child take the reigns and figure out why things do and don't work. When my child does not take my advice the only things left I have to say is, "don't let nothing but fear and common sense stop you" It's usually enough to get her on the right track.

mamareen
mamareen

@PaigeBullock There's no reason he shouldn't at least model for her (pun intended) how ridiculous attire like that is. He didn't "forbid" her choices, as far as we know, he's just teaching a lesson. Adults can learn from their parents too, in fact part of being a parent is that you are one forever. Anyone not continually learning from their parents' lessons or even mistakes, yes even as adults, has a closed mind or an inflated ego.

AndyFalcon
AndyFalcon

@PaigeBullock 

You seem to be confused about the difference between freedom and anarchy. Freedom requires discipline, anarchy is about being able to do whatever the hell you want without any thought for consequences on yourself or others. Which one do you think you are promoting with your statement?

Ask yourself why should this father just accept the idea that the child he spent his time, love, and fortune on, instead of buying a Ferrari, banging college chicks from LA to Miami, and getting high with the fellas... that his child turned into an adult who likes wearing hoe uniforms? Why should he not try to do something about it to change her mind, knowing full well it may cause the most precious thing in his life embarrassment sooner or later? Because she's an adult? Really? So adults don't make mistakes, and should not be corrected. That's essentially what you're saying, right? You can't have cake and eat it too.

mrbomb13
mrbomb13

Do you not realize that the father is trying to save her from a truck-load of embarrassment down the line?

Since the girl is in college, she has only 4 years to straighten herself out (i.e. learn how to dress/behave appropriately) before she applies for a professional position.  I don't know about you, but I don't know of any professional organization that condones piss-poor attire.

He's just doing her a favor now to save her from certain embarrassment in the long-run.

mrbomb13
mrbomb13

@missing_chapter 

Oh, fathers never humiliate their poorly-dressed sons?

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!

When I was a kid, I was not the world's best dresser, and was definitely made fun of by my father.  Seeing the clothes on him made me realize how stupid I must have looked. 

Sometimes a little humiliation serves a better purpose...

MauriceAdelmon
MauriceAdelmon

@missing_chapter There is nothing humiliating about having people who love you and care enough to do such a thing for you. It's an honor, the greatest perhaps. You're obviously not a deep thinker. 

AndyFalcon
AndyFalcon

@glennra3 @robin.fitton 

Dave Chappelle put it in good perspective. You know a cop by the uniform he wears. So if you have qualms about being mistaken for a hoe, don't wear a hoe's uniform. Has nothing to do with your freedom to wear whatever you want, it's about knowing what world you live in and being smart about it.