Misguided Website Shames Mistresses Instead of Philandering Husbands

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Woman in devil dress.

One website has taken the notion of public shaming to the next level, with a dose of double standards to boot.

Using the mantra “if you can’t beat them, EXPOSE them,” shesahomewrecker.com encourages women to post information about the “white picket fence destroying women who just can’t seem to let go of your husbands and boyfriends … Don’t forget to include photos!”

Sticking to (un)ethical guide posts similar to revenge porn, She’s a Homewrecker publishes picture after picture of “other women,” including their full name, city and sometimes other personal information (like phone numbers). Its Facebook page, currently with 244,000 likes, posts Your eCards pictures with phrases like “I’m sorry. I swore it was Slap a Dumb B—- Day” and stories from readers about their helpless husbands’ “home-wrecking whores.”

Meanwhile, the philandering men are treated like sympathy-deserving victims of their own biology, physically incapable of resisting the wiles of these evil temptresses. Frankly this is all a little too Scarlet Letter for us.

[Jezebel]

26 comments
LeahMaines
LeahMaines

If you have ever experienced the pain, frustration and humiliation that infidelity brings, then you would understand that website. Often, the injured spouse has no place to voice her frustration over being betrayed. One can only cry on a friend's shoulder so many times before that friend finely starts saying "move on," "get over it," and "you are better off without him." But maybe the wife isn't ready. She feels violated and needs to say her mind! Maybe she truly loves her husband and she really wants him to come home and stay home.

Yes, the man has responsibility. But this site is not about the man. It is a sounding board for the hurting wife/woman. This is like group therapy that just happens to name names and share photos with a "play you pay attitude." The other woman played with a fiery hot man. Doesn't she deserve to get a little burnt?

Divanora
Divanora

Everyone wants to blame the "cheaters", but what about the wives? She's just as responsible for making an unhappy marriage as the husband. I've met some "scorned" wives, and it comes as no surprise that their husband cheated on them.

tinano
tinano

please. why don't they have a website for girlfriends and wives of cheating husbands who need to grow a spine an dump the sons of .... Its so easy to blame the other woman, instead of dumping the cheating cad, b/c after all finding a new husband or boyfriend is SO hard...or is it? This website sounds like a bunch of drama with no real purpose whatsoever- revenge wont bring him back girls -so if he won't keep it in his pants- just move on!

MrLuxe
MrLuxe

Excellent photo-caption work Time.com

mromagnoli8
mromagnoli8

ya know, most animals aren't monogamous. we're an exception to the rule and every rule has its own exceptions. 

ltdwoodcock
ltdwoodcock

Isn't Time a journal? I don't recall opinions being a part of journalism. I do like informative component though.

nkorsgaard
nkorsgaard

Talk about jumping to conclusions...

A boy wets himself - he's being abused?  I understand that there is sometimes a connection, but there are soooo many different changes that bring this about. I know that a new sibling will frequently bring a regression in potty training. Kids cal also have so many new friends and be so engrossed that they forget to go to the bathroom ESPECIALLY boys. I've known of so many kid this age where, for a few weeks, they had accidents, then it went away. I would never advocate sweeping any real concerns about abuse under the rug, but planting that seed in their head if there isn't something going on can have unexpected repercussions too. Ask a kid if somebody is touching them in a bad way and all of a sudden they are obsessing over every physical contact, wondering, "Is that ok?... Is this ok?, Is somebody going to touch me?"

My two cents worth with my only qualification being an observant father.

Kathyhill
Kathyhill

This website makes me sick and so disappointed.  Blame the husbands that are getting off easy.  Think she is the only woman your "weak" husband will take advantage of?  Not on your life!  There will be more lonely woman in his future....Make no mistake about it.  How horrible people can be!  I'm ashamed of the woman that created this website and the women who frequent it!

ladybug17
ladybug17

What about the husband who is doing this? These women need to realize their husbands are at fault too. 

blakeycat
blakeycat

I woman stalked and has been begging my soon to be ex husband to get her pregnant for 5 years, she's due this month with his child and I just found all this out. He's just as responsible as she is, but just the letters, and the emails, and the calls, and the texts. The woman literally never left him alone.... Its sad,

WmKDaniel
WmKDaniel

When I was wearing my Wedding Ring, I had tons of Women hitting on me but once I decided to take it off, the Action Stopped. So yea, it's the Women that should be outed for trying to steal someone Married.

TerjeSandkjærHanssen
TerjeSandkjærHanssen

Absurd concept.. "The other girl" is a symptom of a bad marriage, not the cause of it. I checked out the website and it's a lot of  poorly directed rage going on there. Somehow I doubt that most of those girls being hated deserve it. It's also easy to exploit; there's no criticism and anyone can put up pictures and untrue stories of random girls.

C.AnitaNuñez
C.AnitaNuñez

Because of course, she is the one who stood up before God (or at least your local judge) and pledged a solemn vow to you. Way to go on blaming the WRONG person! 

SarahScottBlankenship
SarahScottBlankenship

At a time when you're feeling vulnerable and just want someone to blame, this would sound like a great idea because you're so angry.  With a little time and distance, you realize that an action like this will get you nowhere.  The more you attempt to shame the "other woman" it seems the more pitiful you look.  Handle it with a little grace, take the high road (especially if you have children) and realize that the best revenge against any woman who steals your man is to let her keep him.

RogerWallace
RogerWallace

@blakeycat Wow! You think maybe he might have been seeking someone with better grammar skills?

reeblite
reeblite

@TerjeSandkjærHanssen please, most marriages are considered "bad" after 10 years.  that's total bs.  justification is a wonderful thing.  only unhappy women go after married men.  they're convoluted thinking is since they're married, they're good marriage material and will be good to them.  these men aren't good marriage material if they're miserable in marriage.  guys who think like this are usually self absorbed losers to begin with.  can't cut family life?  so much for them being a good parent. most second marriages say they end up like the first, over time.  it's simply the learning  process of marriage.  you can go through your life on this planet two ways.  alone, over a series of failed relationships or marriages, or with a mate and family for life.

AlexanderWayland-James
AlexanderWayland-James

@C.AnitaNuñez what do you mean blaming the wrong person? Being a homewrecker is a very specific allegation, and some women just enjoy coming in and seducing your husband. Maybe its a power trip thing.... this is like the neighborhood watch of vixens.... now if its his fault, you just go through the normal channels of counseling and then perhaps divorce.

GillianGordon
GillianGordon

@SarahScottBlankenship ..so agree with you...however  the man is not without fault here.  He would not have gone and had an affair, if he was not looking in the first place. 


AlexanderWayland-James
AlexanderWayland-James

@SarahScottBlankenship hmm thats probably the best solution if you have children as any back and forth will definitely negatively impact their development. But if dumping your man on the other woman is your idea of revenge, this probably wasn't the prize pig man in the first place.

DeweySayenoff
DeweySayenoff

@AlexanderWayland-James @C.AnitaNuñez Seems to me you're attacking the wrong person here.  A relationship takes BOTH PARTIES to be involved.  If the man in a marriage is straying and the other isn't, there's something wrong with the communication and understanding on BOTH their parts.  The same goes for a woman straying from her husband.

Marriage takes communication, understanding, work and commitment.  Lacking ANY of these, and it's in trouble.  I think you'll find there are a hell of a lot fewer willing "home-wreckers" (who willfully go out to destroy a marriage as you describe) than there are bad marriages in which any one of the four elements necessary to keep it going are missing.

The fault of a straying partner isn't on the "other woman" or the "other man", it's strictly on the couple who for whatever reason decided it wasn't worth the effort to maintain.  Call a spade a spade.  The "other woman" or "other man" taking down a marriage is purely a symptom of a bad marriage to begin with.